IT’S YOUR PARTY AND YOU CAN CRY IF YOU WANT TO…
A brilliant coach once told me “Everyone has a story”.
This is a truth and we hear it many times from ourselves and others when we explain or rationalize a situation. In fact, lives can be designed around “the story” or we can decide to change.
We have habits that are “keepers”, but how about the ones we don’t want, those patterns in our lives that make us stuck and we don’t even see them! Perhaps some of our routines were established because we reaped the rewards at one time. Which of them don’t work anymore or don’t reward us but we are just used to the results and accept them?
If you want to change your story, the first step is to decide on what routine doesn’t work for you anymore. You can replace or get rid of it but it requires a decision and focus.
In The Power of Habit, by Charles Duhigg, he identifies the “habit routine loop” as: a cue which triggers an event, followed by a routine or pattern which ends with a reward. He references in The Golden Rule of Habit Change, The World of Psychology:
“It seems ridiculously simple, but once you’re aware of how your habit works, once you recognize the cues and rewards, you’re halfway to changing it,” Nathan Azrin, one of the developers of habit reversal training, told me. “It seems like it should be more complex. The truth is, the brain can be reprogrammed. You just have to be deliberate about it.”
If we choose to continue with current patterns that compete with our goals, then we stay in our story. We can also decide to change with the power to decide on what stays or goes. Pick a habit that does not fit in your life. Are you willing to replace it and will you share your new routine with others?
“I am not a product of my circumstances.
I am a product of my decisions.”—Steven Covey
I would appreciate hearing from you on this topic!
What habits do you recognize that you are willing to modify or change? Do you know the triggers and if so, how can you reprogram your response to get the desired rewards?
Penny Pearl , Founder of Bear2Bull Coaching is skilled in networking both at social events and online using LinkedIn. She coaches on how to build better networking skills to generate new sales and grow your business. Penny is an entrepreneur with a strong sales background and is a Board Member for the International Coach Federation, Sacramento Chapter as the Professional Development Chair. Her engaging coaching style makes the adventure of learning online networking skills using LinkedIn® simple so you can get results to grow your sales!
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